Man Asks Internet If He Should Contact GF After 9 Years In Prison And Losing Touch

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Sometimes, you get a feeling that just won’t go away. Even though days, weeks, months, years, and even decades pass, all it takes is a smell, a sound, or a certain picture to take you back to that moment and make you feel exactly the same way as you did back then.

A man told me how he still had feelings for an old girlfriend more than ten years after they broke up. He talked about how he finally got in touch with her and what happened after that.

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The person who posted the story wanted to know if he should get in touch with a woman he hadn’t seen in 10 years because he was in jail for political reasons.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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They dated for two years, but after he was arrested, his girlfriend’s brother and the poster’s best friend both died, and his girlfriend left the country.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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With all of these bad things that have happened to her in the past and not knowing what her relationship status is now, the poster asked for help on whether to contact her.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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Encouraged by the group, the poster got in touch with the old girlfriend and came back with an update.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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He sent her a nice message, and a while later, she called and asked if it was really him.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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She tried to send care gifts and money to the jail where he was being held. This shows that she never forgot him.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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They agreed to video chat soon, and OP is both excited and worried that he’s changed too much for her to still like him.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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About two months later, the person posted an update saying that they had had their first video call and many more since then.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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He said that when he first saw her, he thought how pretty she was. He told stories about how caring she is and how she sent him care packages again.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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She also tells him to go out and see things. The poster says that he’s seen more of the city in the last month than in the whole time he’s lived there.

Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch
Man Asks Internet For Advice If He Should Contact GF After Being Incarcerated For 9 Years And Losing Touch

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Finally, they set up a meeting in person. Before that, they talked almost every day and grew closer.

The story is very touching, from the fact that he was wrongfully put in jail to the fact that he never gave up on her and she did her best to give him care packages while he was in jail to the fact that they finally got in touch and slowly grew closer. I think it’s bittersweet in the best sense of the word. It was bitter at first, but OP and his friend Daria can only hope it gets better from here on out.

Integration and assimilation are never easy, whether you’re going to a different country or getting out of prison after a long time. Even worse is going through all of it while being traumatized by it, as both OP and Daria are, as the post and some replies show.

Forbes talks about dating after jail and says that it’s hard no matter what crime you did, especially when you have to tell your date that you’re a convicted criminal. It seems like there’s never a good time to do this, and a lot of the time, people respond in a judgmental way, either running away in fear or making the time spent sound romantic, which are both bad signs.

Aside from dating, ex-inmates say it’s hard to see how much the world has changed, especially with all the technical advances. We may find it easy to keep up with new phones, computers, and tools as they come out, but for people who have never lived in our world, it is a whole different story.

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Michael Santos talks about how he got back into society after 25 years in jail on the website Slate. He says that until his wife gave him an iPhone while he was in jail, he had never seen a modern cellphone. She had to teach him how to use it. He also says that the news wasn’t as exciting and that there weren’t as many government scandals. People were also wearing much more revealing clothes than they did before he went to jail.

What might also be interesting is how people get back into society after something like a coma. Annie Shapiro came out of one of the longest comas ever, which lasted for 29 years. She had a big stroke in 1969, and she didn’t wake up for almost 30 years. Sources say it was hard for her to accept that she was now a grandmother, that people had been to the moon, and that landline phones were now available.

Her story may have even been the basis for the 1998 movie Forever Love, in which a woman tries to get back into society 20 years after waking up from a coma. I won’t give anything away about the movie, but with the tagline “She will discover betrayal… before she discovers herself” on the poster, I can’t imagine it being anything but amazing.

In the comments on his different posts, OP gave more information. He says that their conversations have been fully friendly, but he has also asked her in a very awkward way if she is in a relationship right now. When she said no, he was relieved.

It also turns out that the laws in the country where the OP was recently changed, making it possible for people who are charged with the crimes the OP was accused of to get the death sentence. They talk about how much has changed and how happy they are now that they live in a place where most of their problems are just paperwork.

When OP’s story was shared again in the Best Of Redditor Updates sub, it got more than 17,000 upvotes, which is a lot. It also got almost 1,000 comments, with people saying how sweet it was, how it made them cry, and wishing OP and Daria the best. Tell us what you think about the story in the comments.