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One of the most exciting days in a couple’s life is the day of their wedding. Finally, they each get to get married to their best friend, and at the happy party, their two families come together as one. It is normal for the bride and groom to make sure that everything about their marriage day is perfect, from the flowers to the band to the food. But recently, one bride even wanted to keep her guests, especially her father, on a tight leash.
LargeSeat3093 on Reddit, the father in question, said online that his daughter told his husband and son they couldn’t go to the wedding, so he didn’t pay for it. This caused some trouble in the family, so the father went to the “Am I the [Jerk]?” subreddit to get some outside opinions on his decision. Read the dad’s full explanation and some of the responses to the story below, and then decide for yourself if he should have paid for the wedding. Tell us what you think about this in the comments box.
Recently, one father reached out online asking if he was wrong for refusing to fund his daughter’s wedding after she banned his husband and son from attending
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He said that he has always had a good relationship with his daughter, but she didn’t want her conservative in-laws to be offended by his “way of life.”
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The bride asked her father-in-law to walk her down the aisle, and her dad decided not to come.
Even though it’s understandable that this bride wanted to get along well with her in-laws right away, that’s no reason to completely ignore how her father and her husband feel. If the groom’s parents are bothered by a loving parent and his husband enjoying a wedding and celebrating a happy couple, it sounds like they have a massive issue with the loving parent and his husband. It’s too bad that they were allowed to let their prejudices stop other people from enjoying the event.
There are often fights between in-laws, so I’m sure the bride was very aware of how to make them happy. Just like kids often fight with their parents over small things, husbands and wives often fight with their in-laws over small things as well. They all want the best for their child or partner, but sometimes it’s hard for them to agree on something. It can be hard to share your partner with their parents, especially if you have big philosophical differences or small fights about how to celebrate holiday traditions. Blythe Copeland of Martha Stewart says that the most common problems between in-laws are about how a couple spends their money, their political views, how they raise their grandchildren, and how much time they spend with each side of the family. Jennifer Uhrlass, a family therapist, told Martha Stewart, “Building up a deeper understanding of [your in-laws’] relationship dynamics might help you see the situation with more empathy and create a more constructive environment going forward.” The best thing to do is to stay calm and try to get things back to normal.
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Ironically, this bride’s attempt to stop family fights on her husband’s side of the family only made things worse on her own side. Even though it’s great to try to get along well with your partner’s family, there’s never a reason to treat your own father badly at your wedding and make him feel like an outsider. At the end of the day, a wedding is about the two people getting married, and as the bride, she had the right to invite her father’s family no matter what her in-laws thought. We’d love to hear what you think about this situation in the comments section below. Would you have paid for the wedding or not gone at all?
Many readers have expressed sympathy for the father and agreed that homophobia should never be tolerated.
