A woman’s list of 13 rigorous wedding rules, which she’s been working on since she was a child, has stirred an internet debate.

Even though she isn’t engaged yet, content creator Kennedy Marks took to TikTok to talk about how she’s been planning her big day since she was eight years old, and all of the details she won’t compromise on when the time comes.

It’s clear she’s thought over every detail, but viewers weren’t sure whether they wanted to attend such an event, and the comments area under Kennedy’s post rapidly erupted into a debate about the kinds of expectations couples can place on their wedding guests.

While guests and how they conduct themselves are certainly key factors in the evening’s events, The Knot’s 2021 Real Weddings Study found that the majority of couples believe that food and beverages are what they should focus on to offer a pleasant and memorable experience.

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"No Boring People": Woman Goes Viral For Listing 13 Rules For Guests At Her Future Wedding

While the average wedding guest count rose from 2020’s pandemic-influenced average of 66 attendees to 105 in 2021, it fell from 2019’s average of 131 guests to $266 per guest in 2021, according to a poll by the Wedding and Event Planning Institute.

Kennedy says she had expected the video to only be seen by her close friends

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As a result, there are more people like Kennedy who are more concerned with how their wedding will be spent than with the size of the event itself.

Even if everyone has their own ideas about how to host a wedding, this year’s guests were more eager than ever to attend weddings since everyone was ready to socialize again and was looking forward to an excuse to dress up and celebrate.

Attendance at weddings has increased to 50% of guests, up from 39% in 2019, and 68% of guests are ready to spend more on weddings (as a result of the year-long quarantine)—most typically on gifts from the couple’s registry as a result.

The average cost of attending a wedding in 2021 will be $460 (up from $420 in 2019), with guests spending an average of $160 on a wedding gift (up from $120). Guests who fly to an out-of-town wedding typically spend upwards of $1,300, compared to $270 for in-town guests.

It costs on average $266 per guest, which is an increase over the previous year’s average of $214.

Most couples (56%) end the night with open bars (79 percent), champagne toast (51%), and personalized favors (11%).

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As a result, roughly 60% of couples offer vegan and gluten-free options to their guests.

41 percent of couples ask their guests to ‘unplug’ in order to ensure that everyone is present and having fun (up 19 percent versus five years ago).

Even after the reception is over, around a quarter of couples (27 percent) organize an after-party and brunch the morning after the event (26 percent ).

While we’re debating whether or not Kennedy’s demands are unreasonable, I’d want to take a moment to acknowledge how wonderful it is that we’re once again celebrating weddings. Yay!

The original video already has over a million views

And Kennedy also made another one to make sure she explains everything